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Thursday, May 31, 2012

Prepping For Baby Travels ~ Diaper Bag 101

Okay, so I knew that when I got pregnant that I had a long year ahead of me.  I knew that there would be the challenges of pregnancy, prepping for baby and the obvious factors of the life changes that come when she finally arrives.  I think that the part I was least prepared for was prepping for baby.  Can you say exhausting?  I’m honestly not sure how I would find time to do it all if I was still working 50+ hours a week!

My first baby shower occurred last weekend ~ it was a bit early so I could make the trip with no issues.  My dining room is over run by receiving blankets, outfits, toys, diaper bags, diapers and the lot.  My nursery will not be finished for another two weeks or so and regardless of that ~ none of the furniture will arrive until the end of next week at the latest.

So I have been spending my hours washing clothes and organizing items.  I’ve even got a diaper bag packed up and ready to go…

So let’s talk about what goes in a diaper bag ~ shall we?  First you’ll need to think about the purpose of the bag you’re packing:  How far from home are you going, how many meal times will you miss, how long will you be gone, how easy will it be to cut your journey short?

So here’s the basic diaper bag packing:

Diapers: One per hour you’re expecting to be gone

Small Bags:  To dispose of dirty diapers!

Baby Wipes

Changing Pad

Here’s something that I found that allows you to put all four of the above items together so you don’t need to dig through the bag to find everything you’re looking for:  Fisher Price – Travel Care Deluxe Diaper Changer.  It even comes with 25 small bags to get you started so you’re not stinking up your best friend’s trash can…  Alright, let’s continue.

Burping Cloth

Pacifier: If you’re baby uses one

Change of clothing: Both for baby and mom, just in case!

Blanket

Any medicine your child may need ICE (In Case of Emergency ~ Tylenol, Benadryl etc.)

Feeding Supplies:  If you plan to breast feed, this may be as simple as the cover for privacy but if not, make sure you have enough formula and several clean bottles to last the duration of the time you expect to be away from home.

If you’re leaving the baby and bag with someone else for a while, make sure you have a list of the important info: your contact information, the pediatrician’s contact info, allergies, immunization records etc.

We’ll get into some more organizational steps later but for right now, this mama to be needs a nap!

Sincerely,

~Nikki

Wednesday, May 30, 2012

I’m Baaaack…

Hey ladies,

Sorry I’ve been gone so long.  I took an extended trip back to my home town which lined up nicely with my baby shower and I had no idea that I was going to be too busy and too tired to write.  I hope you’ll forgive me.

But anyway ~ I’m back and have some good stuff coming up for you in the next couple days encompassing what I hope will include baby shower photos, the stress of reading up on how to be a good parent, different education methods, sleep schedules, sign language and more…

Plus some registry/baby shower advice for those of you who it’s not too late for.

That’s all for now as I’ve got to get dinner on the stove and laundry in the dryer…  I’m even going to attempt to get started on my thank you cards.  I hope you all had a great end of May and thanks for reading.

Sincerely,

~Nikki

Tuesday, May 15, 2012

The Crockpot… More Than Wasted Counter Space

I don’t know about you, but my crockpot was one of the first gifts that was purchased for me when it was time for me to move out into this big scary world on my own.  For a while, it really just sat in the cupboard.  At one point ~ I decided it was time to start using it ~ and then it just took up space on the counter.  The truth is we are all busy.  Whether we’re stay at home mom’s, students, full time employees or a combination of any of the hats us women wear now a days ~ there aren’t always enough hours in the day to get everything done that we need to, and still provide our family with a nutritional dinner on the table each evening.

So why not fully utilize the crockpot, and all of its amazing glory?

I’m going to highlight for you some of my crockpot favorites so you can see how easy it all really can be.

1. ~ A Basic Pot Roast ~

You will need:

  1. 1 bag mini carrots
  2. A roast (any top of bottom or round roast)
  3. 4 potatoes, cubed
  4. 1/2 an onion, cubed
  5. 2 cups beef broth (again you can use cubes)
  6. Garlic Salt & Italian Seasoning

Put the roast in first, cover and surround with potatoes, onions & carrots.  Add beef broth, and seasoning.

If you do this first thing in the morning, cook on low all day.  Meal will be ready when you are.  If you’re making it later in the day, put it on high for the first 3 hours and then turn it down.

2. ~Beef Stew~

I want to provide you here with a quick disclaimer.  DO NOT GET DISCOURAGED if you do not have all of the ingredients that are required in a recipe.  If you don’t have garlic powder?  It’s not the end of the world if you use salt.  Don’t have a bay leaf?  Season your dish up with some italian seasoning or parsley.  Just wing it!  Winking smile

  1. 1 bag mini carrots
  2. 3 potatoes, cubed
  3. 2 lbs. beef chuck, cubed (in a lot of butcher departments you can find this done for you)
  4. 2 cups water
  5. 2 beef bouillon cubes
  6. 1/2 tsp garlic powder
  7. 1 bay leaf
  8. salt & pepper
  9. 2 onions, chopped
  10. 1 rib celery, sliced
  11. 1/4 cup flour
  12. 1/3 cup cold water

Combine all of the ingredients except the flour and cold water.  Mix well.  Cover and cook on Low for 8 hours.  When it’s time to eat, dissolve the flour into the water and stir into the mixture.  Turn the crockpot on high and cook for about 10 minutes, or until thickened.  Enjoy.

3. ~ Beef Stroganoff ~ I love this recipe because I can exclude the mushrooms and it’s no longer deadly (yes, I have a mushroom allergy, weird, I know).

You will need:

  1. 1 lb. round steak, cubed
  2. 1 Tbsp. shortening
  3. 1/2 cup chopped onion
  4. 1/2 cup chopped celery
  5. 10 3/4 oz can cream of celery soup
  6. 4 oz can mushroom pieces, drained
  7. 1 cup sour cream
  8. 1/4 tsp garlic salt

If you’d like ~ you can brown the meat in the shortening in a saucepan prior to cooking.  If you do so, add onions and celery and saute until they’re tender.  Them combine all of the ingredients in the slow cooker and get on with your day.  I recommend serving over hot egg noodles, but this is your kitchen.

4. ~ Reuben Sandwiches ~

You will need:

  1. 1 lb. can sauerkraut (fresh if you can get it, mmmm!)
  2. 1 lb. sliced corn beef brisket
  3. 1/4 lb swiss cheese, sliced
  4. Sliced rye bread
  5. Thousand island dressing

Drain the sauerkraut until it’s very dry (use paper towels to absorb the moisture) and place in the bottom of the slow cooker.  Arrange a layer of corned beef slices over the sauerkraut and top with cheese slices.  This one you’ll want to cook on low for 4 hours.

When dinner time is upon you, simply toast the bread and spread generously with the thousand island dressing.  Spoon ingredients from slow cooker onto the bread maintaining the different layers ~ and enjoy!

Alright, so there’s your mission for the week.  Pull out the crockpot and make it happen!  More recipes coming soon!

Sincerely,

~Nikki

Monday, May 14, 2012

Ask Your Physician!

I don’t know about you ~ but being 25 and having grown up in the age of technology, I depend on Google for everything.  It’s hilarious because my parents are stuck with these horrible old cell phones obviously because they refuse to pay for the data packages that they don’t see a need for.  My Father went so far as to tell me a few weeks back that the only people who need a smart phone are traveling salesman, and people who are on the road for their job constantly.  I couldn’t help but laugh.

I know what you’re thinking ~ how old are your parents?  Well, they’re only 46 and 49 ~ they just grew up in a completely different time, in towns smaller than most of you can imagine.  Any time you call my mother ~ it will tell you that her voicemail box is full… because she refuses to waste her minutes checking voicemails.  I keep trying to explain that she can do it over nights and weekends, or that I can even do it by calling her…  It never changes.

And so we have become a generation obsessed with having the answers at our fingertips.  Which has obviously led to another issue.  Googling of symptoms, self diagnosis and self medication…

I’m not going to sit here and tell you that I am not guilty of it, or that based on my readings (not the recommendation of any Pediatrician I have talked to) that I won’t be vaccinating my baby the day she leaves the womb.  But how often are we using the “opinions” of uneducated forum junkies to determine that a medical issue is completely normal ~ and does not need medical attention.

I had my 25 week prenatal appointment today.  After reading everything I could find on contractions, I am still really struggling with the concept of what they will feel like.  He started talking about them and I came out and said “Can you please explain to me what a contraction is supposed to feel like?”.  He just chuckled.  Apparently when I feel it, I will know.  But he did give me a better understanding of where I will feel it ~ as well as what to look for when it may be time to get to a hospital.  Another thing that I had been reading about on the forums was a lot of women that are due at the end of August are already experiencing leakage from their breasts.  Having not experienced this, it kind of made me concerned.  I felt 100% better when he advised me that it was actually the norm for it not to be occurring at this stage in the game.

My point really is that yes, there are people out there who have been through it many times.  They will be able to offer you some great advice and opinions.  However PLEASE keep in mind that it is just that.  Advice and opinions.  I am the first one to give both but I always start off my sentences with “based on what I have read” and end it with “but I would definitely ask your Dr. at your next prenatal appointment”.  That’s what they’re there for.  Why not take advantage of it?

Just my rant and word of caution for the day.  Hope you’re having a great day!

Sincerely,

~Nikki

Friday, May 11, 2012

Financials ~ Payment Schedule ~ Budgeting 105

Okay, so now that you have your budget set ~ it’s time to make a payment schedule to prevent you from paying bills after their due, or running out of money before you get paid again.  First things first:  Determine how many times you will get paid in a billing cycle.  Do you get paid monthly, twice a month, weekly, or every two weeks?  How often do you want to pay your bills?

Based on the sample budget I created in my earlier post, I’m going to show you two ways to set up a payment schedule.  One is really more helpful for those of you who are already on track, and the second is for those of you who need to get caught up on bills, and see your balance at the end of each pay period.

Let’s get started!

Open up your budget.  If you’re in Excel then create a new tab titled “schedule”.

You’ll want to copy your monthly operating budget into this tab so that you can create your budget.

With the first method I’m going to show you quickly how to balance it, and then I’m going to show you how I keep track of everything on a month to month basis.  I will assume that you will pay your bills twice a month.  Let’s say the 10th and the 25th.

In our sample budget, our total operating was $2,600.00.  This means we will want to break up payments on the 10th and the 25th to be as close to $1,300.00 as possible.

Mortgage $ 1,000.00

Utility #1 $ 50.00

Utility #2 $ 50.00

Utility #3 $ 100.00

Savings $ 250.00

Auto Payment $ 250.00

Auto Insurance $ 100.00

Auto Savings $ 100.00

Gasoline $ 200.00

Groceries $ 300.00

Clothes/Hair $ 100.00

Entertainment $ 100.00 

Based on these numbers let’s assume that your mortgage and utility #1 are due on the 1st of the month.  Let’s say Utility #2 is due on the 15th, Utility #3 is due on the 14th, your Auto Payment is due on the 17th and your Auto Insurance is due on the 10th.

Look at how I created the chart below to line those items up so that they will be paid on time.  You’ll then notice that I added all of your savings transfers to the beginning of the month (the payment date with less moneys going out) and split your expenses that are meant to carry you through the month.

If you’re not confident with paying less in the beginning of the month, I recommend putting your entire entertainment and clothing/hair budget in an envelope in the beginning of the month to make everything an even $1,300.00.

 

Budget Image 1

Now onto keeping track of this every month:

The first three columns will be exactly the same, so copy those into a new spreadsheet titled X Month 2012.  Create the following columns:  Day Paid, Actual Amount, Variance.

What does that mean?  You’re not always going to pay a bill on the day that it is due.  By seeing what day you pay a bill each month, it allows you to know A.) when you should pay it again and B.) whether or not you’re making payments on time.  Actual amount ~ this one is a bit obvious.  While your budget number is pretty close, your utility bills are not going to be identical each month.  This is why we keep track of how much we actually paid, and then the variance.

You can fill it in just like I have done below.

Budget Image 2

To get caught up, you will still need to follow the initial steps above of getting your schedule set, you’re just going to need to do things a little bit different in the tracking section.

Create a new spreadsheet titled Running Balance.  This is going to have a section for each paycheck you receive.  Let’s say you start this when you get paid this Friday, May 18th.

Your first line will be May 18th.  Under the date you will put beginning balance.  To the right of that, put in your actual beginning balance before you got paid.

Next line: Paycheck.  Type in the amount you got paid (in the same column as your beginning balance.  After that you’ll want to put in everything you’re paying from that and two columns over the amount you spend.  You’ll end that section with a Checking balance column which you will see in my example below.  It’s up to you to figure out how to pay things to get caught up, whether you leave your savings funds alone for a few months so that you can use that to pay your mortgage the week before it’s due instead of later in the month where you may incur a late fee.  Here’s an example.

Budget Image 3

So, as you can see above: Our sample is paying May’s mortgage at the end of the month, undoubtedly hitting a late fee of at least $40.  There isn’t a lot of wiggle room in the budget to begin with, and those unnecessary fees can really kill it for you.  So what do you do?

Here’s where a bit of planning comes in.  If you’re one of those people who gets paid every Friday, you can look ahead and see that June is one of those months where you’ll be getting that extra paycheck.  That’s $650 right there to help you get on time on your mortgage.  You would still need to make that payment at the end of the month in the full amount, but then you would also put that extra $650 towards your mortgage as well.  That way August’s balance is more than half paid for.  In August if you think you can, you could not put any money into either savings, and you’ve found the other $350.  Pay that extra towards your mortgage and when you make that payment at the end of September?  It will actually go towards October’s mortgage instead of being late for September!

I know that was a lot, but I hope it helped.  Please don’t hesitate to contact me if you’re struggling!

Sincerely,

~Nikki

Thursday, May 10, 2012

Pimp My Ride… Thanks Mema and Papa!

I will again state that I am blessed with an amazing family.  I have come to realize more-so lately just how privileged I have been throughout my life and how spoiled I truly am.  And I thank God for those blessings every day.

So my Dad and Step-mom (forever here on out to apparently be known as Mema and Papa) had told us early on that they wanted to get us our travel system for Magdalene.  Sweet, awesome, great, thanks, yes PLEASE!  After plenty of reviews, discussions, arguments on patterns and the like ~ my husband and I came to an agreement on one.

The Graco Stylus Travel System ~ Benton…  Can you say HOLY STROLLER Batman?!

  • Features: Safety Harness, Extra Large Baskets, 1 Built-in Cup Holder for Baby, Folds Up for Easy Transport, Storage Basket Beneath Seat, Reclining Seat, Locking Wheels, Removable Head Support, 2 Built-In Cup Holders for Parent, Front Swivel Wheels
  • Stroller Functions: Reclining Seat, Adjustable Handle Height, Accommodates 1 Infant Carseat
  • Includes: Car Seat Base, Car Seat, Stroller, Rear Facing Infant Car Seat
  • Safety and Security Features: LATCH Equipped Car Seat, 5-Point Harness, Locking Wheels
  • Certifications: JPMA Certified
  • Care and Cleaning: Wipe Clean With Soap and Water, Machine Wash
  • Min. Carseat Weight Supported: 5.0
  • Max. Carseat Weight Capacity: 30.0
  • Min. Stroller Weight Supported: 5.0
  • Max. Stroller Weight Capacity: 50.0
  • Manufacturer's Suggested Age: Newborn and Up
  • Material: Steel, Plastic
  • Dimensions: 40.5 " H x 23.0 " W x 27.0 " D
  • Collapsed Dimensions: 19.5 " H x 37.5 " D
  • Weight: 47.23 Lb.

Benton Stroller

Anybody notice the weight on that thing?!  Fortunately it is super easy to handle, easy to adjust, easy to put car seat in base and stroller…  Long story short the thing handles like a dream.

We put it together and we were practicing putting it in and out of the base and in and out of the stroller…  It was absolutely hysterical.  The base shifts into three different positions, and has a level on it to make sure you haven’t installed it improperly…  So far I absolutely love it and can’t wait to test it out with the Maggie!

Sincerely,

~Nikki

Wednesday, May 9, 2012

Thank God That’s Over…

As you may have figured out by now ~ I am an extremely passionate person when it comes to things that I care about, as well as the things that I believe in.  That being said ~ most of the time when it doesn’t affect me or my believes, I am completely content walking in the other direction.  I would not make a very good politician, because I honestly just don’t have a view on every topic.

For those of you who do not live in North Carolina, Tuesday was a very controversial day in our state.  We were charged with voting on an amendment that would add the definition of marriage between a man and a woman to our state’s constitution, as over half of the country has done already.

Keep in mind that gay marriage was already illegal in the state of North Carolina.  Based on what I have read (I am not an expert) it is my belief that the politicians of NC wanted to add this amendment so that the law could not so easily be overturned.  But let’s talk about what it turned into…  Many 40+ page papers were published ~ never to include the full text of the amendment ~ claiming that it would harm children ~ allow gays and unmarried couples no protection against domestic violence ~ break all private agreements regarding domestic insurance arrangements, wills etc.

People were outraged.  The funny ~ no the saddest part in my opinion ~ was that the amendment text (which was never included) very specifically stated that it would have no affect on private agreements whatsoever.  This amendment would not take away the responsibility of a parent to provide health insurance to their child, it would not in any way change agreements between employee and employer and it certainly would not prevent the police from responding to a domestic abuse call because the co-habitants were not married.

People never bothered to get the facts.  They just saw “what it would do” and started throwing out words like hatemonger, bigot, redneck…  It doesn’t even matter what side of the issue I’m on ~ it is disturbing to me that I am weeks away from bringing a miracle into this world in the form of a little girl ~ and that she will be subject to such idiocy amongst a society who finds it unheard of to think for themselves.

According to Wikipedia ~ Bigotry is the state of mind of a "bigot", a person obstinately or intolerantly devoted to his or her own opinions and prejudices, especially one who exhibits intolerance or animosity toward members of a group.

Weren’t those opposed to the amendment acting in this state of mind?  To be intolerable of the group of “rednecks” and “bigots” who survive another generation?

You cannot truly know someone’s beliefs or motivations behind anything without having an intelligent conversation with them.  If you don’t wish to do so ~ then keep your accusations to yourself…  That’s all for today.  It’s been a rough week.

Sincerely,

~Nikki 

Tuesday, May 8, 2012

Taco Tuesday!

Now that I’m home all day and left to my own devices ~ you would think it would be easier to plan out meals.  It’s actually gotten more difficult.  Though it may just be the fact that I can NEVER DECIDE what it is I want to eat.  And therefore I have implemented taco Tuesday.  And in celebration:  I’m sharing some of my favorite recipes with you.

We all know and love a basic taco…  So here goes:

Taco shells (the kind you toast in the oven)

One lb. Ground Beef

Roma tomatoes (diced)

Shredded Lettuce

Mexican Style Cheese

One Packet Taco Mix

Simple enough, right?  Exactly.  I always get my veggies ready while I’m browning the beef.  Then you add the water and seasoning as directed on the packet (your shells should be toasting this whole time) and voila!  Serve.  Quick, easy and deeelicious.

Warning ~ If your DH (Dear Husband) loves tacos as much as mine does…  one lb. of ground beef may literally only be enough for the two of you.  So adjust based on your family size.

Who doesn’t love a nice hot soup on a dreary or rainy day?  I have the simplest taco soup recipe and it’s absolutely amazing:

One lb. Ground Beef

2 cans kidney beans

1 can diced tomatoes

One Packet Taco Mix

1 cup of rice

tortilla strips, mexican cheese, chives and sour cream (if that’s your thing) to garnish.

In a pot combine 2 cans kidney beans, 1 can diced tomatoes, one packet taco mix and three cups of water.  Turn on low.

Brown your ground beef.  Add to your pot.  If you’ve read my previous posts ~ you know I like to cheat.  So here it comes again.  With the Pampered Chef Rice Cooker I cook 1 cup of rice while I’m bringing my soup to a boil, and simmering.

That’s all there is to it.  Put some rice in the bottom of a bowl, add your soup on top then garnish.

Next week I will be giving turkey fajitas a try.  You guessed it, simply frying up some turkey, peppers and onions ~ throwing some flour tortillas in the oven to heat up and serving with some type of bean, lettuce, tomato and cheese!  Have I mentioned my husband LOVES cheese and tacos?  I’ll talk to y’all soon!

Sincerely,

~Nikki

Monday, May 7, 2012

Michael’s… A Non Crafty Person’s Nightmare

For those of you who don’t know me all that well…  I am not what you would call a crafty person.  That being said ~ with nothing better to do but sit on my butt all day, it’s clearly been in my sanity’s best interest to get a few hobbies.  Crocheting is great, but I cut up my finger pretty bad the other day (oh the joys of pregnancy brain) and therefore I’m taking a break.  I got in the car and wound up at our local Michael’s.

Clean up on aisle one?  So far I have only ventured into Hobby Lobby searching for crafts and no offense to you Michael’s lovers but…  after yesterday it seems I will be keeping to that trend.  Maybe your local Michael’s is different but mine was literally a mess of yarn, paint, scrapbooking supplies and wedding containers.  And even the wedding stuff wasn’t all put together.  I found invitations on three different aisles ~ it was an OCD person’s worst nightmare!

So I’m curious ~ and I very much want to hear from you on this one.  What are your hobbies?  What types of crafts have you done that are along the lines of nursery or home improvement items?  Comment away gracious readers~ please and thank you!

Sincerely,

~Nikki

Friday, May 4, 2012

Eating for Two… How Much is Too Much?

I told you that some of these posts would be me getting up on my soap box, right?  Well ~ here it is ladies.

Early on in this pregnancy when I was spending a lot of time wrapped around my toilet bowl, I was also spending a lot of time on the Baby Center (BBC) forums to make myself feel a bit more normal.  The farther I get along in this pregnancy, the more I have stepped away from it.  Yesterday I think I realized exactly why this is.

I’m going to give you a fair warning ladies, you really may not like where this post is going.

Pregnancy weight gain…  It’s a pretty hot topic.  A license to eat, cravings, how much is too much and so on and so forth.

Yesterday after a woman came home from her 23 week prenatal visit, she posted a complete RANT about how ANGRY she was at her doctor for shaming her based on the fact that she has already gained over 30 lbs!  She felt that the doctor had absolutely no right to make her feel this way…

What did the rest of the women, also due in August tell her?  That it was COMPLETELY NORMAL and they were in the SAME BOAT and not to listen to her doctor…  Umm, excuse me?  When did you spend 12 years trapped in college hell to give that kind of advice?

By the end she felt 100% better and now thanks to some real idiots clearly has no intention of changing her habits.  Wow.

Here’s the thing…  I eat all the time.  I occasionally even snack out on ice cream and brownies and if you know me at all, well…  then you know I’ve eaten my fair share of potato chips and french onion dip.  So I’m BAFFLED to know what these girls have been eating to gain almost 3x the amount of lbs. that I have put on so far.

GET OFF YOUR ASS.

Yes, I know.  You go to work all day and sit in a cubicle and I don’t.  What is your point?  Get up and go for a walk on your lunch break instead of consuming everything you can fit on a tray at Arby’s.  Use those nesting feelings to your advantage.  Clean something.  Dear God women, are you serious?

I’ll get into the facts in a minute but I’m going to throw this out there one more time.  The fact that your mom gained 50 lbs with all four of her pregnancies and lost it within the year ~ IT’S NOT SOUND MEDICAL ADVICE.  Morons.

So, now let’s get into the actual reasons doctors recommend a weight gain over the whole 40 weeks that you’ve managed to successfully accomplish in half the time…  Congratulations to you.  Sensing the sarcasm?  Good!

By gaining too much weight during pregnancy, here are the complications for you and/or your baby:

Discomfort ~ Yes, even more than you were expecting.  As you continue to pack on the lbs. and not give you and your baby the nutrients you need you’re going to experience back pain, swollen ankles, leg pains, vericose veins, exhaustion, heartburn, hemorrhoids (my personal favorite) and all over aches and pains.  Sounds like a blast, doesn’t it?

Complications ~ Oy!  Here’s a thought.  Have you ever heard of gestational diabetes?  Guess what it’s treated with?  Diet and exercise.  Why don’t you get started?  Oh and guess what?  You’ve just doubled the risk that your child is going to be heavy.  Not only is this bad for obvious reasons later on, but with you and your child larger than necessary, if you can deliver vaginally at all?  Plan on your LO being removed with a vacuum.

On-going Health Issues ~ Hello.  Are you getting my point yet?  No?  That’s fine.  There’s more.  Just because your mom lost that 50 lbs?  You’ve just doubled the amount you’re likely to retain after baby is born.  “Women who gain excessively and don't lose the extra weight within six months after the birth are at a much higher risk of being obese ten years later. Obesity often leads to significant health issues, such as high blood pressure, diabetes, and heart disease.”

~http://www.whattoexpect.com/pregnancy/eating-well/week-22/too-much-weight.aspx

~http://www.americanpregnancy.org/pregnancyhealth/eatingfortwo.html

Alright…  I’m going to come down from my soap box now but let’s get serious ladies.  This is a big deal.  I’m already going to be at my heaviest and miserable in the dead heat of a Carolina summer.  Let’s not make things worse on ourselves.  Hydrate, eat right, give into the cravings occasionally and make sure you’re getting active.

Sincerely,

~Nikki

Thursday, May 3, 2012

Dave Ramsey & His Baby Steps to Financial Freedom (4-7)

It’s time to pick up where we left off.  If you missed baby steps 1-3, you can find my break down of them here.  And please ~ feel free to completely avoid this post until you have completed steps 1-3.

And here are steps 4-7 ladies and gentle… ladies?  hehe.

Baby Step #4:

It’s time to invest.  At this point you have no payments with the exception of a mortgage.  No credit card bills, no automobile payments, nada.  As Dave says it’s “time to get serious about building wealth”.  Time to start putting 15% of your gross HOUSEHOLD income into retirement plans and/or Roth IRAs.

What is a Roth IRA?

“A Roth IRA (Individual Retirement Arrangement) is a special type of retirement plan under US law that is generally not taxed, provided certain conditions are met. The tax law of the United States allows a tax reduction on a limited amount of saving for retirement. The Roth IRA's principal difference from most other tax advantaged retirement plans is that, rather than granting a tax break for money placed into the plan, the tax break is granted on the money withdrawn from the plan during retirement.

A Roth IRA can be an individual retirement account containing investments in securities, usually common stocks and bonds, often through mutual funds (although other investments, including derivatives, notes, certificates of deposit, and real estate are possible). A Roth IRA can also be an individual retirement annuity, which is an annuity contract or an endowment contract purchased from a life insurance company. As with all IRAs, the Internal Revenue Service mandates specific eligibility and filing status requirements. A Roth IRA's main advantages are its tax structure and the additional flexibility that this tax structure provides. Also, there are fewer restrictions on the investments that can be made in the plan than many other tax advantaged plans, and this adds somewhat to the popularity, though the investment options available depends on the trustee (or the place where the plan is established).”  ~http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Roth_IRA

Why do you not want to put more than 15% in?  Keep reading.  You’ll want to have money left to complete the rest of the steps.

Baby Step #5:

First things first.  You need to have a goal.  You need to figure out how much per month (per Dave, at 12% interest) you need to set aside in order for there to be enough when it’s time to send your child (or yourself) off to college.  Google your options for Education Savings Accounts and 529s as this is the best way to save.  North Carolina has great options for both in-state and out-of-state college savings plans.

“Never save for college using:

  • Insurance
  • Savings bonds (only 5-6% growth)
  • Zero-coupon bonds. (only 6-8% growth)
  • Pre-paid college tuition (only 7% inflation rate)”

~http://www.daveramsey.com/new/baby-step-5/

Baby Step #6:

Could you imagine being out of mortgage payments 5 years earlier than planned?  What about 10 years?  Don’t forget, at this point you have a solid savings fund with 6 months of your operating income socked away.  So now it’s time to pay down that mortgage.

At this point, you may even want to contact your mortgage company, and other companies to see if refinancing to a lower interest rate is an option for you.  Either way, it’s time to get to the point where you don’t have to remember to send that monthly mortgage payment.  What better way to do so than by eliminating it?

Baby Step #7:

“t’s time to build wealth and give like never before. Leave an inheritance for future generations, and bless others now with your excess. It's really the only way to live!

Golda Meir says, “You can’t shake hands with a clenched fist.” Vow to never hold your money so tightly that you never give any away. Hoarding money is not the way to wealth. Save for yourself, save for your family’s future, and be gracious enough to bless others. You can do all three at the same time.”  ~http://www.daveramsey.com/new/baby-step-7/

Ladies, I know it seems like a lot.  But that’s why you start with baby step number one.  And that’s why they’re baby steps.  It’s clearly not an overnight process, but it is a life changing one.  I hope you’ll take that plunge as I have.  I’m looking forward to steps 4-7.

Sincerely,

~Nikki

Wednesday, May 2, 2012

Baby Shower 101

I am an event planner by nature.  Hospitality runs through these veins like water runs over Niagara Falls.  I’m that host that always does all of the cooking, and politely declines your request to bring something when I invite you into my home.  So as I’m sure you can imagine, letting others plan for me is a bit nerve racking.

That being said, I wanted to provide some tips for those of you who may be planning baby showers (for yourself, or someone else) in the upcoming future.  I hope you enjoy.

The Guest List

    • What is your venue?
    • How many people does it hold?
    • Is this shower for a specific audience?

These are all things to keep in mind when creating the guest list to your big day.  Of course, you will always want to over invite as you can usually expect 50-60% of the guests you invite to be able to attend.  Sometimes, if it’s a holiday weekend or such, it may be even less.  So don’t get discouraged.  Just be ready with lots of invitations.

The Menu

If you are having a baby shower at a restaurant, this in most cases will be taken care of for you.  You’ll need to figure out approximate attendance, which directly correlates with your budget, and then order food. 

If you’re not having it at a restaurant, you may still want to choose the catering option.

If you’re a DIY-er like I am, you’ll want to plan your menu.  If you are hosting for a picky mom to be ~ I highly recommend sitting down with her to see if there are any must-haves or food aversions before finalizing.  I know my mom is glad she did so.

Here are some of the highlights from the menu for my upcoming shower:

Jungle animal cupcakes

Frozen Lemonade with Fruit

Waffle Fruit Bowls with Whipped Cream

And of course my all time favorite snack…  Bruschetta.  Nope, she didn’t have a choice.

We will be serving a heavy lunch so it will include ziti, scalloped potatoes and ham, veggies, and a meat/cheese tray.

Like I said, hospitality and fattening people up runs in our blood.  If this isn’t for you KISS it all you want to (Keep It Simple Stupid).  LOL.

You can see my previous post on invitations here.

So now that you have invitations, guests, and a menu ~ let’s get the rest of the details worked out.  Is there a theme?  If there is, start early to find plates, cups, napkins and decorations that go along with the theme.  If there isn’t, simply go for a color scheme.  Pinks or Blues are simple enough if you know what the sex of the baby is.  If you’re not sure, for whatever reason and you’re as averse to the color yellow as my husband is ~ pastel it up.  Or if your shower is near a holiday ~ get festive and use those colors.  Decorations will be super easy to find.

What is the game plan?  Do you have games set up for your guests?  Are you going to subject your mommy-to-be to the “guess how many sheets of toilet paper it takes to wrap around my belly”?  We will not be playing that one at my shower…  No ma’am.  I found these awesome books at the Dollar Tree in the party section for baby shower games that had 10 games for up to 8 guests.  Have 24 guests?  That’s all the games you need for only $3!  Either way, make sure you have a writing utensil for each guest.

What about favors?  There are so many ways to do this.  Google baby shower favors X.  The X can be related to your theme, it can be candy, it can be whatever the heck you want it to be.  Just remember, you don’t need to break the bank on this one.  People will just be excited to have a keepsake of the day!

Don’t forget that as the host you’ll need to have a notebook and pen on hand for when the mommy-to-be opens her gifts.  It’s your job to write down everything she received, and from whom ~ to make the task of sending out thank you notes as easy as possible.  Best of luck ~ and have fun!

Sincerely,

~Nikki

Tuesday, May 1, 2012

Invitations, Announcements, Christmas Cards… Oh My

I will be completely honest with you ~ in the 6 years that my DH and I have been together, I’ve never sent Christmas cards or annual updates to anyone in our family.  We moved to NC 5 Christmas’ ago and haven’t been home for a single one.  Oops.  Well, if you’re like me ~ you’ve decided that it’s now time to change all of that.

Unfortunately, somewhere along the way ~ a computer crashed, and I lots all of the addresses that I had collected for our wedding, and had to start all over again.  So let’s start with the gathering of addresses.

First things first.  Start an Excel file with the list of all of the addresses that you need to collect.  This should include immediate family, aunts, uncles and your favorite cousins, any close family friends ~ it’s completely up to you.

Then start gathering addresses.  The best place to start is by contacting your parents and your in laws.  For any that they don’t have ~ if you have a general idea of where they live whitepages.com can be a great resource.  Message them on Facebook and ask them for their address, whatever you need to do to get that information.

THEN save the file to a dropbox.com account so that you will have the list and can make updates as necessary.  No falling victim to losing the file because it will always be securely stored on line.

Invitations:  If you’re working on invitations you’ll want to figure out whether or not there is a theme.  Then you’ll need to choose your words.  You’ll need to keep things in mind like who is hosting, who it’s honoring, if you want to give away the sex etc.  Also, it’s crucial to make sure that you include any pertinent information including where you’re registered, how they should RSVP, and any directions that your guests may need.  Get creative and have fun with these.  Then make sure to save one for the baby book!  You’ll want to keep it.

Birth Announcement:  The first thing you’ll want to do is choose the perfect photo.  Your LO doesn’t need to be dressed up in a frilly outfit or anything like that.  That being said, I wouldn’t recommend using the first photo your DH shot off either.  Just something cute that she’s them looking at peace.  This is another one where you’ll want to choose your words.  I use Google for all situations like this.  It’s where I found the perfect rhyme to ask people for a book instead of a card for my baby shower.  Be sure to include the details.  How big?  How heavy?  Date of birth?  Full name?  Then sign it from you and your DH so it has the personal ring to it.

Head to your post office to find the perfect stamp to match the time of year or event, and pop them in the mail.

Good luck!

Sincerely,

~Nikki

Meatloaf, Yes Please.

This one is going to take a bit longer to cook because let’s face it, putting a meatloaf in the oven for 30 minutes is not going to lead to good things…  You don’t ever hear them asking “what temperature would you like your meatloaf” at restaurants for very good reason.  So here we go.

If you have a bread pan, that will work perfectly.  Otherwise you’ll have to form this one into a loaf and put in a deep baking dish.  No need to cover.  Start by turning your oven on to 375 degrees.

1 lb. Ground Beef (93/7)

1/2 lb. Mild Ground Italian Sausage

1/2 an Onion, Diced

1 Egg

2/3 cup Italian Bread Crumbs

Salt & Pepper

Combine all of the above ingredients in a large mixing bowl.  To properly mix the sausage into the ground beef you will need to mix this well with clean, ring free hands for several minutes.  When you can’t tell where the sausage ends, and the ground beef begins, you’re ready to form your loaf.

Pop this in the oven, set the timer for 30 minutes and go play with your LO, do some yard work, whatever.  You won’t need to do anything else until the timer goes off.

There are so many options for meatloaf, and I promise you that they can all be completed in the 20 minutes you now have left.  If you want to do something simple like canned green beans, and buttered egg noodles, when the timer goes off it will be time to start boiling the water for the egg noodles.  Once you add the egg noodles, turn the canned (or frozen) veggies on so they can get cooking.  Also, if you’d like to add a sauce to the meatloaf ~ something as simple as tomato paste, or even just coating it in a chunky Ragu you happen to have in the fridge ~ now is the time to do it.

When your sides are done, remove your meatloaf from the oven.  Let it sit so that you don’t have a big juicy mess when you cut into it.  Prep your sides.  This may just mean draining the vegetables, and draining/rinsing the egg noodles and adding butter.

Now you’re ready to serve.  Sounds simple enough, right?  I promise you it is.  Enjoy!

Sincerely,

~Nikki